I'd like her to come on the road with me and see the hundreds of girls who have, indeed, been raped. It seems that Ms. MacDonald thinks the "mass hysteria" created by Universities is nothing but "campus rape myth". She thinks "TBTN" rallies and Sexual Assault Centers are bogus wastes of money since college girls are just boozy whores who cry rape because they regret "hooking up". You know what? I know differently and I am entitled to call bullshit on her. Click here to read her article.
I've talked to fraternity boys around the country and even those that I know. When I tell them the definition of rape includes having sex with an unconscious girl, they are shocked to realize they have indeed committed rape. If you've drugged someone and they cannot say "NO", it's still rape. If they pass out in your bed because you lure them there and you proceed to "have sex" with them, it's rape. Not just strangers jumping out of bushes rape. Desperate men, dying to get a notch on their belt and prove their virility commit rape because of peer pressure and yes, that's rape!
Um, the University of Virginia doesn't publish its rape statistics because they are HIGH! Last year, 16 sororities reported that a member was raped during fraternity rush week - it was on the front page of the Cavalier Daily and of course, there was no follow up article because the DOS office quashed it. Ms. MacDonald only cites one weak ass article written by a complete moron at UVa. She should have done more research to see the writings about sexual assault at the University. They - University brass - reclassify them as simple assault, but the Clery Act will catch them. The reason those girls in her article didn't think they were raped is because no one on Grounds does anything about it. Notice the choices those students have. Not once is "Go to the City Police" an option, just like in my case.
And enough about Duke. We get it. She was a false accuser but she does not represent all of us. I've said time and again, false accusers should face charges.
But the worst part of Heather MacDonald's piece? The way she mocks the rape culture and the words "survivor" "co-survivor", "one in four" etc. She cannot stand that Yale Student (where I spoke at Take Back the Night last year) get involved with helping to prevent sexual assault and heal those that do. You can feel the sarcasm and venom dripping from her pen. That's what hurts the most.
Clearly, she has two categories - "real rape" - where she feels a stranger climbs into a bedroom window, usually a black man raping a white woman and "fake rape", where a girl who has been drinking or has been slipped a roofie is raped. Wow. No in between? I am betting she thinks I am one of those boozy sluts who lied. Imagine if William Beebe hadn't confessed? I'd be lumped in with those harlots who went to a party. She is racist and sexist and she doesn't even take into account the men who are raped on campuses.
Think about it. Sound off.
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There's not much I can say, except that it is disgusting reasoning, and she is very misinformed. Her position deeply disturbs me.
As human beings, we are all guilty of ill judgement and making mistakes.
That does not make rape acceptable or our fault. My problem with the whole notch on the belt thing is that they aren't so wasted that they can't seize the opportunity to get laid by taking advantage even when they know men are stronger than women, that alcohol can affect women differently, and attack women who are obviously impaired and in no position to consent.
They know what they are doing is wrong, but they depend upon the scumbag defenses that well... she was just a drunk slut... what can she prove? She was drinking... How well enough does her memory hold up? Enough after the LMN movie and your story to conclude- ENOUGH to prove rape.
I am so outraged at this article that I cannot even begin to put words to paper. Thanks for enlightening us. I'd love to have a face-to-face with her. Any interest in that?
I am so there!
liz,
i'm posting this message in response to this story and the two stories that are posted on sunday.
i canNOT even begin to conceive how people--especially women--can have such utterly ignorant attitudes and beliefs about rape, particularly date/acquaintance rape.
OF COURSE having sex with a woman who is unconscious or passed out is rape. how in the world can anyone believe that it is not?
and, except for the rape itself, the worse thing is when supposedly enlightened institutions such as universities try to cover up the rape or sweep it under the rug becuz they care more about covering their asses than looking out for the safety and welfare of their students, especially when, as you so accurately pointed out, the alleged rapists are jocks. heaven forbid that the university care more the safety of their students than about the revenue they receive from football games.
MARIO
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