On this day, in 1984, my world changed. I spoke with a few of my survivor friends yesterday, as I was feeling trepidation about today - caring for Ava, working, just "being". Strangely enough, another friend and I are share the same exact date of our assaults. Different years - what are the odds? Hers also at the University of Virginia.
Do you go on as if nothing happened? Do you kick and scream? Are you good to yourself?
Marnie suggested (here's what she does) that it become like a birthday of sorts. She suggested I go shopping or get a pedicure or just relax. Because, as adults, we skip the fanfare of birthdays, a day like this becomes one of rebirth. I agree. I can't say I love today, but I love that I have a healthy and happy child, the support of friends and family and the courage to have stood up for myself.
How do you cope on "anniversaries" of terrible events?
1 comment:
Liz,
Oops! I didn't finish my train of thought in my previous message: therefore, based on your having ultimately triumphed over the devastating emotional effects of the rape and succeeded, and found happiness, in life, today, as a survivor of October 4th, 1984, you are, in a manner of speaking, 23 years of age!
Happy "birthday"!
Mario
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